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Illness: It’s All in Your Head – But You’re Not Crazy, You’re Normal

Barbara post on March 20th, 2013
Posted in Health, Mind/body

What if the cause of most of the illnesses were, in large measure,were a product of our minds rather than our bodies? For most of us, that idea would make us very angry because we know what ails us in definitely in our bodies. And according to John Sarno, MD, that anger might serve to make us even sicker.

Researchers are not saying that we’re hypochondriacs who purposely think ourselves sick; it’s just that many illnesses are products of the mind before they are symptoms in the body. According to Dr. Sarno, the source of illness is unexpressed emotions that sometimes are buried deep in our subconscious. These unconscious emotions incite real, physical pain and disease in the body but the underlying cause remains in the mind. The disease, according to this view, serves to distract us in order to protect us from the repressed emotions in the mind. Uncover the emotion, the symptoms disappear.

Illness Distracts to Protect

Sarno explains in his 2007 book, The Divided Mind, that when we can’t (or don’t want to) face our fears, angers, or frustrations our bodies comply by giving us physical illnesses to get busy fixing. When we focus on the physical, we can avoid the emotional.

For example, “unacceptable” emotions like anger and rage, according to Sarno, trigger back pain but the pain is not from a slipped or herniated disc or other physical cause (as research confirms). If it were, the pain wouldn’t disappear once the emotion is acknowledged through education or talk therapy. This disc remains compromised, but pain is gone. Sarno, and others, conclude that emotions buried in the subconscious mind are the underlying cause of the back pain (and a whole host of other illnesses).

It’s All in Your Head – And That’s Normal!

Psychosomatic is a word someone who is ill hates because when your doctor can’t figure out what’s wrong and tells you it’s all in your head, it’s frustrating. Infuriating. Crazy-making.

Yet, psychosomatic illness is neither an indictment of the suffering person nor a fantasy a doctor should condescendingly ignore. For Candace Pert, PhD, psychosomatic is not a pejorative term, as it’s traditionally been in medicine ever since Sigmund Freud discovered the unconscious. Psychosomatic illness is a reality of the biology and chemistry of the body.

Pert’s work uncovered the fact that emotions create molecules that share “intimate connections with our physiology.” As a result Pert said, “I’ve come to believe that virtually all illness, if not all psychosomatic in foundation, has a definite psychosomatic component . . . It is the emotion, I have come to see, that link the mind and the body.”

Pert is no scientific lightweight. She has a PhD in pharmacology from Johns Hopkins, held a research professorship in physiology and biophysics at Georgetown’s medical school, and for thirteen years was the chief of section on brain biochemistry of the Clinical Neuroscience Branch of the National Institute of Mental Health. In her 1997 book, Molecules of Emotion, she said that our minds and our bodies are a singular interconnected system, so our emotions affect the biology, chemistry and functioning of the entire body way down at its most basic molecular level. Emotions, in the conscious and unconscious, affect every single cell and sometimes that leads to illness.

Body & Mind Act as One

It’s not that we think ourselves sick. Our bodies merely comply with the emotions in our subconscious mind to produce symptoms that deflect attention from the “dangerous” subconscious emotions. Sigmund Freud (who first spoke of the unconscious) said physical symptoms were a way neurotics punished themselves – which is why we have such a negative view of the process. Sarno disagrees with Freud saying the illness is a way to protect ourselves from the “unacceptable” or dangerous emotions. It’s normal, not neurotic.

My experiences say Sarno is right. But I also wonder if there’s more. Perhaps the emotions our subconscious minds use to create physical symptoms are really invitations, a way to get our attention, so we can heal both the body AND the emotions.

Is your bodymind using illness to invite you to healing? One way to find out is to ask your illness if it had a voice, what would it be telling you? The answer just might surprise you.

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Sending Out Love or Hate Without A Single Word

Barbara post on March 7th, 2013
Posted in Body Language, Communication, Fear, Forgiveness, Health, Love, Perception

Have you ever wondered why you are instantly attracted to, or repelled by, some people? We’ve all met people who send out “vibes” that make us want to stay close and others whose vibes make us want to run away . . . quick.

Those “vibes” have now been scientifically located and are measurable. It turns out that research by the Institute of HeartMath has found that an electromagnetic field emanating from our heart is the source. Some people really do have “good vibes” (or bad ones) that the rest of us readily feel.

The brain in your heart

We’ve long known that the heart operates through electrical impulses. EKGs (electrocardiograms) have been measuring them for decades, diagnosing or monitoring how the heart functions.

But now more sensitive instruments used by neurocardiologists have shown that the heart isn’t just merely a pump that keeps our blood flowing. It is also a complex sense organ that processes information with its own brain-like “nervous system” that learns, remembers, and makes decisions independently of the brain in our head. And our heart’s “brain” routinely communicates with the higher centers involved with processing emotions, learning, and perception in head’s brain.

The “Vibes” of emotion

But the magic doesn’t end there. The heart’s “nervous system” also communicates information within and outside the body through the heart’s powerful electromagnetic field. Researchers have been able to measure this field up to five feet away.

Why is this important? The ancients long ago posited that emotions began in the heart. But whether they begin in the heart or the brain, the heart reacts to them sending signals, chemicals, and energy not only throughout the body but beyond it too.

Positive emotions like love and compassion create rhythmic, orderly heartbeat patterns and negative emotions like anger create erratic, disordered heartbeat patterns. These differing patterns spread throughout the entire body and into the world through the heart’s electromagnetic field. This has not only health consequences but social consequences as well.

Emotions radiate out

That our emotions affect the functioning of our bodies is not new information. But that they alter our heart’s electromagnetic field in a way that affects our interactions with other people up to five feet away without any other sort of communication is kind of startling. Perhaps this is an explanation for crowd behavior.

Imagine the different behaviors generated when one person’s heart sends out ordered, rhythmic, “loving” patterns of energy that are communicated to, and synchronized with others versus the angry or fearful person’s erratic, disordered, chaotic patterns of energy.

Do you know what kind of pattern is your heart sending out? We might be able to fool the brain in our head and deny our own perception about what we’re feeling but I doubt we can fool the brain in our heart.

The energy from your heart fills the world

The emotions that fill our hearts fill our worlds. So what is in your heart? Fear, judgment, criticism, anger, and frustration? Or love, compassion, forgiveness, calm and peace? That’s what we’re spreading not only by what we say, how we look, or what we do but also through the electromagnetic field that radiates directly from “the seat of our soul” . . . our heart.

Holding the energy of each other’s hearts is an awesome responsibility. Will you do anything different today knowing that your emotions may change everything?

 

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Conscious Listening: The Ultimate Act of Generosity & Caring

Did you know that we spend 60% of our time listening?

Unfortunately, most of us really don’t listen very well at all and we retain only 25% of what we hear. This lack causes all sorts of problems in personal relationships, at work, and even accessing everyday services like proper health care.

Since January is a time for resolutions, I suggest that we all resolve to practice better listening because good listening could improve nearly every other aspect of our lives. Good listening—conscious listening— is a way to be truly present to another human being, it’s an act of that shows respect, caring, and love.

The problem with listening is that we have filters—mostly unconscious—that create barriers to hearing the real content of what is said.  These filters include beliefs, expectations, values, and intentions (among others) and cause us to hear not what is said but what we want or expect.

Adding to the filter problem is lack of attention to the task. A friend told me that when she’s talking on the phone to her very chatty cousin (who she says she adores), she’s surfing the web and reading articles. And we’ve all seen people supposedly having a “discussion” while texting or playing on their phones. Saddest of all is to see a child trying to compete for attention with a parent’s phone or tablet. These examples are not a matter of rudeness, but of caring.

Being Heard: Most of us have experienced how wonderful it feels to truly be heard, to be understood (and therefore validated), or simply to successfully complete a task because you have all the instructions. Our society, awash in electronic distraction, is becoming less skilled at listening—and since we were never that good at it to begin with, that’s a big problem.

Sound expert, author, and international speaker, Julian Treasure (great name!) has 5 Tips to develop better listening that he presented last year during a Ted talk in Scotland.

Conscious listening, he said, is an exercise in mindfulness that takes practice but since listening is the ultimate act of generosity and caring, the effort pays off handsomely. To develop better listening he suggests:

  1. Take 3 to 5 minutes every day for silence
  2. Practice hearing “channels of sound” in open spaces or in noisy environments so that you can begin to exercise control over your “soundscapes”
  3. Savor listening; learn to recognize and enjoy the mundane sounds in your environment
  4. Switch your “listening position” (active verses passive,  empathetic verses critical, etc.)
  5. Use the acronym RASA: receive, appreciate, summarize, ask

Developing conscious listening, listening with our heart and not just our ears, is a skill that not only will strengthen personal and working relationships, it’s essential for generating the kind of understanding necessary to create the peace we long for in our lives, in our communities, and in the world.

“Words are a pretext. It is the inner bond that draws one person to another, not words.” ― Rumi

Julian Treasure’s Ted talk on Listening 

 

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Smile & Live Longer

Barbara post on October 29th, 2012
Posted in Family, Health Tags: , ,

When our eldest daughter was a senior in high school, we got two pieces of news two days before Easter. My daughter’s financial package for the college of her choice arrived with scholarship awards included (yeah!) and my husband was fired from his job as second in command of a mid-sized manufacturing company (ouch!). It took only a few hours to decide to continue with our plans for the family vacation in Florida. We had a free condo waiting on the beach and there wasn’t anything we could do immediately about the job loss so we packed up and drove from Rochester New York to St. Augustine Florida.

During that 20-hour drive, we heard a song that became our mantra—Bobby McFerrin’s Don’t Worry Be Happy. When the song came on the radio, we cranked up the volume and swayed side-to-side as we belted it out. We especially loved the “do, do, do, do, do, do, do-doo, do-doo, doo-doo’s.  We heard that song dozens of times on that vacation. It lifted our spirits. And it caused us to smile every time it played.

Job loss is one of the stressors in life that can have significant negative health consequences. Luckily for us, smiling has significant health benefits. New research proves that smiling not only improves your sense of joy and satisfaction, it can also extend your life.

The power of a simple smile

Ron Gutman, a health researcher and founder/ CEO of the health information website Health Tap, believes smiling has super-powers. He recounts studies proving that the span of someone’s smile (in a college yearbook or on a baseball card) enabled researchers to predict a person’s life span as well as how long-lasting someone’s marriage would be, and how successful they would be. The broader the smile, the longer the life, the happier the marriage, and the happier the subject would score on a standardized test of well-being. On top of all that goodness, smiling makes you look more competent and inspiring to others.

The cool thing about a smile it that it is free, it has compounding benefits (just smile at someone and watch their face light up), and it makes us feel better. Since facial expressions can change the hormones coursing through our bodies (see body language post), turning that frown upside down can literally change how we perceive what is happening in our lives.

When we spent that week in Florida singing Don’t Worry Be Happy, smiling and laughing through the renditions that became more expressive with each run-through, we were able to return home with a sense of hope that all would be well. We had no idea how, but we knew it was true. Smiling through the stress kept our minds clear so that we could see our losses as opportunities. And to this day, that little ditty has the power to make every member of our family smile.

 

Life is sometimes hard. But it is also a gift given with each new dawn. So make a habit of smiling especially when times are tough. Smile at the homeless person, at the person checking out your groceries, at your coworkers, at your partner/spouse, at your children.

And if you don’t have a child in your life to share a smile with (children smile up to 400 times a day – and since smiles are contagious, kids are great to have around), watch some of those cute cats on YouTube.

Smiling will make you feel better even if you’re smiling alone.

Live long. SMILE.

 

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