Category Archive:Meditation

Mastering the Balance

Barbara post on May 15th, 2013
Posted in Communication, Family, Fear, Listening, Love, Meditation, Perception, Spirituality

Mastering the balance between accepting life as it is and realizing that our thoughts create our reality is a life-long endeavor. Many modern-day gurus and life coaches of all stripes are quick to tell us that everything we experience we create. I’m not disputing that the essence of what they say is true, but I believe life is more complex than that. To expect to have the power to manifest everything that happens in the web of life that becomes real around us will make us either arrogant or drench us in self-loathing and guilt, or both.

Some events just are. People we love get sick or die. They lose businesses or jobs because of the economy - not their performance. They get into awful situations because of choices they make. Or they get in awful situations for being at the wrong place at the wrong time (think tragedies great and small that victimize so many). And then there are the times Mother Nature wallops some people and whole communities with her awesome power. The best we can do in such situations is find whatever strength they bring out in us—or those around us—as we seek the grace, lessons, and sometimes even blessings in them.

Growing Out of the Brokenness

What we can manifest is our own best selves. So many things in our lives aren’t much more than potential; a whole host of possibilities. And how we think about them materializes one possibility out of all that potential that exists. At such times, how we think is EVERYTHING. If we expect goodness, awesomeness, love, success, and beauty, and focus our thoughts on those possibilities then that is what we’ll manifest. If we expect more pain, failure, disappointment, loss, and rejection, and our thoughts dance with a host of What-ifs fueled by fear, then we will manifest exactly what we focus our thoughts upon.

The more our thoughts develop from our love, the more likely we create the outcome we desire. This is true whether we’re in control of the circumstances or not. How we think our thoughts is a habit. And it is also a choice day-by-day, moment-by-moment.

Loving thoughts leave little room for fear-filled thoughts. So today, as much as possible, focus your thoughts on love. Change what you can and look for the love in what you can’t.

 

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Ancient & Modern Communication Meet: Texting Prayers

Barbara post on April 15th, 2013
Posted in Communication, Family, Love, Meditation, Prayer, Spirituality

Every morning since October 6, 2012, I’ve been texting prayers to my cousin as she works her way through a really tough time. It hadn’t been a conscious decision to do this. It just sort of happened and the weird part about it is that it happened at a distressing point in my own spiritual life; a time when I was praying daily into an abyss. Unmoored and questioning the nature of faith itself – prayer was a conundrum for me.

Yet I continued the daily ritual and added to my cousin via text. And in the process I began to experience healing grace. For as I assured my cousin of God’s presence, God began to resurrect for me in an unfamiliar yet unmistakably God-like way. And given what I know—and more importantly what I know I don’t know—this part of my spiritual journey has become a curiosity to be observed rather than analyzed (since I can’t quite figure it out anyway), a gift to be savored.

Perhaps at some point when I’m ready to move on from observation and choose to analyze again, I will answer the questions that trouble me. But not yet. When I’m ready the question will still be here:

  • What is prayer . . . pure energy? Communication or communion with God? Sheer mystery? An action? A thought? A thought turned into reality via energy? Personal delusion? Communal hysteria?
  • What does prayer do . . . change our circumstances? Change our perception? Change us? Change the world? Bestow miracles? Engender grace?
  • What or who is God . . . Enlivening spirit? Creator of the universe? Dispenser of wishes like a great Santa-in-the-sky? Hands-off First Cause? Personal friend who hears my ranting? Pure Energy? The Center that is in all and is All?

I am no theologian. I enter into these questions as a person who from childhood was anchored by experiential faith that guided my life (yet I found no comfort in its silence in my darkest hour); a church goer who spent a lifetime of Sundays at Mass who now feels alienated and estranged from her church; a person who still cherishes the deep mystery of rituals and what they offer who senses no earthly community in which to share them.

But the ancient rituals of prayer remain and – other than love – have become my only spiritual mooring. And in familial love, I had the desire to reach out to my cousin to shine a hint of light into her darkness. Given the 1,000 miles that separate us, I decided texting was my way. So I text her prayers of love, trust, faith, and hope and one day I noticed that the light in those prayers reflected back into my darkness as well. I was texting her memories, ideas, and hopes that blossomed into my own reality.

The gift I offered her was returned to me and assures me of some sort of Divinity; one that I still call God even though I can’t define exactly what that means. The scriptures of my childhood tell me to knock and the door will be opened. My morning texts remind me that the door opens every day.

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Angels Among Us

Barbara post on April 3rd, 2013
Posted in Meditation, Perception, Prayer, Spirituality

I was half way through my early morning speed-walk and about to tackle a long hill when a white pickup truck turned the corner. I was walking in the street with cars parked on both sides so I ducked into an empty spot to let the truck pass. The truck was moving too slowly though, so I had sidled along the next parked car again by the time the truck came abreast and matched my speed. When it did I noticed a public utility logo on the door and woman behind the wheel who had thick fiery auburn hair that cascaded over her bright yellow safety vest.

She had a huge smile that reflected the joy in her voice as she playfully shouted “Mornin . . .” over the rumble of the engine straining on its slow uphill ride. She then chortled, “. . . are we having a race?” I took her cue and started to jog and she threw her head back in laughter and pressed her accelerator and said, “My speedometer is broken!” and I said back, “No, it just doesn’t register ’cause I just run too slow.” She laughed again and wished me a great morning and a good day before she said to herself, “now where do I start this morning?”

And boom, just then, I realized she was the blessing from an unspoken prayer. . . an angel with red hair.

I had started my walk rather exhausted even after a good night’s sleep. The beauty of the trees in my neighborhood and the pray-as-you-go music and reflection I was listening to had helped some. But it was the playfulness in that woman’s voice and demeanor that made me remember that life doesn’t have to be so serious.

Life is a festival of joy to be savored every day. There may be moments of darkness but joy, beauty, and wonder are still available to us if we take just a moment to look for them.

A tree on 17th Stree

A tree on 17th Stree

The woman in the truck with the hearty laugh, a woman who was kind enough to greet a stranger one cool early morning, was like an angel who reminded me not to take myself so seriously. Take a moment to play. To see beauty. To be at peace.

Before I finished my walk, I decided to stop to take a few pictures. Seriousness, work, and all the issues that needed my attention could wait just a moment more.

Savoring playfulness and beauty as a way to care for my soul is just as important as everything else that needs my attention today.

 

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Listening to Ourselves = Awakening

Barbara post on January 26th, 2013
Posted in Communication, Family, Fear, Listening, Meditation Tags: , , , , , , ,

Listening to ourselves, to our own inner stirrings, is an act of awakening that leads us on a journey to wholeness. This listening is not simply thinking through an issue or problem and making a decision. This kind of listening is an act of consciousness that calls us to our deepest knowings—to the key bits of ourselves that we’ve let go of as we responded to the life that happened.

Conscious listening is work. But the rewards are worth the trouble. In the same way that consciously listening to others is an act of love that builds relationships and empowers both speaker and listener through understanding, listening to ourselves is an act of love that calls us to recognize the truth of who we are.

Listening to our own inner stirrings, our internal stories of love and loss, hope and pain, and triumph and fear is an integral part of awakening to the essence of who we are. It is an act of self-love that empowers us through deeper self-understanding and gives us the courage to become our true selves.

Awake by Mark Groves www.markgroves.us

Awake by Mark Groves www.markgroves.us

Awakening is necessary because we start closing off parts of our essential selves early in life. Circumstances and experiences teach us to hide certain aspects of our true selves that don’t meet the approval of important people—parents, teachers, siblings, friends.

In a bid for acceptance, and to keep us safe from separation, we jettison these unacceptable parts and bit by bit we forget they exist.

The great grace of growing up is that we mine the wisdom of our experiences to begin to listen again to the essence of who we are. Hard lessons of failure, loss, rejection, and fear become teachers that encourage us to remember (re+member) and restore what we once intrinsically knew.

Mindfully listening to the stories we tell ourselves allows our Spirits and bodies to awaken our conscious minds to the truths of our essential self that never really left us when we jettisoned the unacceptable bits. They simply burrowed deep into our subconscious.

In truthfully and consciously listening to what we tell ourselves, we can release the negative stories that limit us and embrace the awesomeness of our true re-membered essential being.

Writer Karen Thompson Walker has some wonderful observations of what we can learn from the stories we tell ourselves, especially the stories of our fears. Her insights are well worth the next ten minutes.

What Fear Can Teach Us

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Novena for Peace: Day 9 Peace As a Way of Life

Barbara post on December 21st, 2012
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Peace begins with a thought, an idea, a seed germinating in a heart that is watered with love, gratitude, forgiveness, compassion, and respect for all life. Peace isn’t simply the focus of nine days of prayer; peace is a way of life.

woman & 2 dogs hikingSo, water the peace seed in you. Feed your heart with the smiles of young children, with the beauty of nature – a field of flowers, the sunset over an ocean’s rhythmic motion, light filtering through the trees on a forest path, a mountainside blanketed in snow. Water your soul with chords of music that vibrate with the essence of being human, with the joy that comes from giving to another human being in need, with the compassion that insists you care well for yourself too.

Nurture that peace so you can go into the world to be the peace you long to see, the peace that can change the world as we know it. There is a difference, however, between keeping the peace and maintaining a status quo that is unjust or causes suffering. That status quo must be courageously challenged. Yet the challenge must emanate from the peace we have in our heart and must be enacted out of love, not resentment.

“Peace between countries must rest on the solid foundation of love between individuals.” Mahatma Gandhi

“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.”  Albert Einstein

“If you wish to experience peace, provide peace for another.” Tenzin Gyatso, The 14th Dalai Lama

 

On this last day of our Novena for Peace, the Mayan long-count-calendar completes its cycle and ushers in a new age, the next chapter in the story of humankind. We individually and collectively can choose whether it will be an era of peace or if we continue in violence, separation, resentments, and war.

 

“A great human revolution in just a single individual will help achieve a change in the destiny of a nation and, further, can even enable a change in the destiny of all humankind.”

― Daisaku Ikeda, Buddhist philosopher, author, educator, poet in The Human Revolution

Peace be with you.

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Novena for Peace: Day 8 Choose Peace

Barbara post on December 20th, 2012
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Thinking about the enormity of the problems that war and violence generate can mask the reality that each of us has a responsibility to be a peacemaker, to choose peace in every thought and action. The choices we make in our everyday lives reverberate through the whole of the universe; each of us matters and each of us has the power to shift more towards peace.

“We often think of peace as the absence of war, that if powerful countries would reduce their weapon arsenals, we could have peace. But if we look deeply into the weapons, we see our own minds—our own prejudices, fears and ignorance. Even if we transport all the bombs to the moon, the roots of war and the roots of bombs are still there, in our hearts and minds, and sooner or later we will make new bombs.

“To work for peace is to uproot war from ourselves and from the hearts of men and women. To prepare for war, to give millions of men and women the opportunity to practice killing day and night in their hearts, is to plant millions of seeds of violence, anger, frustration, and fear that will be passed on for generations to come.”

Thich Nhat Hanh in Living Buddha, Living Christ

 

“Ours is a world of nuclear giants and ethical infants. We know more about war than we know about peace, more about killing than we know about living. We have grasped the mystery of the atom and rejected the Sermon on the Mount.”

General Omar Nelson Bradley, 1893 – 1981

If we make a conscious choice to dedicate ourselves to a life of peace we can be an unstoppable force for good. Living the Sermon on the Mount, acting with love, practicing radical forgiveness, protecting and upholding the dignity of all life (not just the lives similar to ours or the ones we like), acknowledging our Oneness with each other, will make a difference.

We continue to pray a Novena for Peace asking for the strength and courage to make such choices.

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Novena for Peace: Day 7 – Peace In Our Hearts

Barbara post on December 19th, 2012
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Peace In Our Hearts

I have long contended that we cannot have peace in the world until we have peace in our hearts. This lesson has been taught by religious leaders across time, faiths, and belief systems. Something that universally taught must be true. If we can learn to experience inner peace, we can recognize our Oneness and in that Oneness we will choose peace.

the moon rising over the river“The first peace, which is the most important, is that which comes within the souls of people when they realize their relationship, their oneness with the universe and all its powers, and when they realize at the center of the universe dwells the Great Spirit, and that its center is really everywhere, it is within each of us.”―

Black Elk 1863-1950 Oglala Lakota (Sioux) medicine man who later embraced Catholicism and saw no conflict in, or contradiction between, the spiritual teachings of both.

 “The God who existed before any religion counts on you to make the oneness of the human family known and celebrated.” Archbishop Desmond Tutu

 

“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.”  Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta

 

“World peace must develop from inner peace. Peace is not just mere absence of violence. Peace is, I think, the manifestation of human compassion.” Dalai Lama XIV

 

“Each one has to find his peace from within. And for peace to be real it must be unaffected by outside circumstances.”  Mahatma Gandhi

 

“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.” Buddha

And so we continue praying our Novena for Peace  becoming conscious of the ways in which we are (or can become) instruments of peace. We also look within to see the ways in which we disturb peace. With conscious attention, to both we learn how to choose peace more often.

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Novena Day 6: Power in Small Things

Barbara post on December 18th, 2012
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Power in the small things

“If we just worry about the big picture, we are powerless. So my secret is to start right away doing whatever little work I can do. I try to give joy to one person in the morning, and remove the suffering of one person in the afternoon. If you and your friends do not despise the small work, a million people will remove a lot of suffering. That is the secret. Start right now.”

Sister Chän Khöng peace activist, expatriate Vietnamese Buddhist nun

In the vastness of the world with all its problems, violence, tragedy, and war we can feel that we are powerless. It is easy to feel that we couldn’t possibly make a difference, that anything we offer is insignificant.

Yet if we are truly One with each other and One with God, then the small offerings we make in prayer and in loving service to one another will accomplish their purpose. The small things we can do give our lives purpose, meaning, and add to our own internal sense of peace. And each small good thing sends its vibration outward into to the world as well as throughout the Divine matrix that connects us all. Each prayer, each thought, each vibration is significant.

Intentionally joining our voices, prayers, and works of love and compassion together will invite peace into our lives, communities, and indeed into the world. And so we continue to pray our Novena for Peace.

“I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something.  And because I cannot do everything I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.” Helen Keller

 

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Novena Day 5: Inner life/Outer life

Barbara post on December 17th, 2012
Posted in Meditation, Novena for Peace 2012, Prayer, Spirituality

jpg imageOur inner lives (spirit) are not always in harmony with our outer lives. If our inner life/outer life remains in discord, so too will our world.We believe we are human beings experiencing the reality of living, yet we are spiritual beings caught in the illusion of our individualism and separation from our Oneness with each other and God. The realms of the inner world, that is our spirituality, have the power to awaken us to our true nature.

But once awakened, we can see the illusion for what it is; we can focus on what truly matters. We can love without fear. We can see that this life is not a zero-sum game in which we must fight for our share. It is a celebration of Divine Love and there is always enough.

“How aware are we of our own inner life, our spirituality-something so intangible yet so priceless? How much effort do we make to perceive that which is not obvious, which can neither be seen nor heard? I believe the exploration and enrichment of the human spirit is what determines our very humanity. Such enrichment provides an inner compass that can lead civilizations to greatness.”
― Daisaku Ikeda Buddhist philosopher, author, educator, poet

“Instead of hating the people you think are war-makers, hate the appetites and disorder in your own soul, which are the causes of war. If you love peace, then hate injustice, hate tyranny, hate greed – but hate these things in yourself, not in another.”
― Thomas Merton  (1915-1968) Trappist Monk at Our Lady of Gethsemani Abbey, Kentucky,

Our ability to suspend judgment, to be one with our fellow human beings, and to feel peace is being sorely tested by outside events in these days of prayer. Yet we continue to pray the Novena for Peace for to do otherwise is giving up on the miracle we can create.

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Novena Day 4: The Sacred Space Between Us

Barbara post on December 16th, 2012
Posted in Meditation, Novena for Peace 2012, Prayer, Spirituality

On this weekend, with a bit more time to reflect on our journey toward peace, Hedy Schleifer beautifully explains the power of connection that exists in what Jewish philosopher Martin Buber called the sacred space that lives between us. That sacred space exists between any two people or cities or countries and we must “cross the bridge” over that sacred space to meet each other with understanding and love.

This Ted video is nearly 20 minutes long, but it is worth every moment.

Hedy Schleifer: The Power of Connection

 

Our children grow in the space between us. The space between the couple is the playground of the child. When we know how to honor that space and make it sacred, our children can blossom in that sacred space. Hedy Schleifer

Whether or not we experienced it as a child, all children deserve to grow and blossom in peaceful homes, peaceful cities, peace-filled countries.  With the peace of our children so brutally assaulted this week, we must redouble our efforts to make the world safe for them. We cannot act to do this out of fear; we must do it out of love. And so we continue to pray together a Novena for Peace.

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